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Happiness Comes From Within, Not "When"

Happiness. Where does it come from? Some people would say this, actually very many people have said this. "I will be happy when..." I'm pretty sure almost everyone has said that in some shape or form. The issue with only being happy when you get something or get to certain part in life, is that you will never be happy.

Being happy in the here and now is one of the most important things that you can do for yourself, especially to help you along through your trials. I remember when I was expecting Mason, that I would wish for things. I would always think to myself that once my boyfriend talked to me again, I would be happy. And the hardest part was, realizing that, him talking to me wasn't going to make me happy.

It bothers me when people live their lives in the future, because you can't. We are right now, in this day and age, here, not there. Hoping is not a bad thing, but hoping for happiness that is based on the outcomes of other things is, in my opinion. As an individual you have full control over your attitude and how you feel. Even if the most terrible life trial is thrown at you, you can still choose to be happy.

In the hospital, one of the nurses that took care of me halfway through the night spent some time talking to me. She shared some of her personal experiences and how she was blessed with having a child after several miscarriages. I asked her how she could keep going through the same process over again so many times. She simply replied, because even though it hurt and it was hard, I knew that I could have a child one day. She said she chose to be happy, even when it was unbearable to be.

People who are amazing examples of warriors are ones I look up to. The ones who choose to be optimistic are certainly enjoyable to know. I've heard the scary adoption stories, and I heard that there were birth mothers who stopped getting updates from their birth child's adoptive parents. I knew that Mason's parent were the parents for him, and I will be happy with my decision for the rest of my life. Even if something goes wrong in the future, not expecting that it will, I myself can still be happy.

There are two types of belief of things, which are true but not seen. Fear. And Faith. There's and endless list to fears, and also an endless list to have faith. There are pro's and con's to everything.

Everything is a matter of perspective, even though the blessings sometimes are hard to see, it's important to be happy and grateful for every experience that comes your way. Sometimes all we need to do is open up and take the blinders off our eyes to see the beauty all around us.


  1. I needed to hear this tonight. Thank you <3


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